Frances Bean Cobain, the daughter of famed Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain and singer Courtney Love, took to Instagram this week to reveal that she is celebrating an important milestone in the world of recovery. She is two years sober.
While Cobain did not reveal the specifics of her addiction, she spoke beautifully of her decision to get and remain sober at this point her life. Posting a photo from her current travels to Oahu, Hawaii, she wrote that, “This moment is a representation of who I am on February 13th, 2018. It feels significant here, now because it’s my 2nd sober birthday.”
Cobain and Love’s only child has unfortunately become familiar with addiction in her immediate family. Her father tragically passed of an overdose when Frances was just two years old, while her mother has publicly struggled with addictions ever since. Love, according to testimony from her daughter in 2012, “[…] basically exist[ed] now on… Xanax, Adderall, Sonata and Abilify, sugar and cigarettes.”
While Love has spoken publicly of her daily battle with sobriety, she and her daughter appeared to have made amends in 2015 after a long period of estrangement.
Today, Frances Bean Cobain is speaking out about the toxic nature of her addiction, and the struggles she has dealt with to live a clean and sober life. With now over twenty years since the death of her father, Cobain has made a new life for herself in sobriety, and is noticing the differences within her self-image and the relationships she forms with others. She attributes all of the positive changes to becoming present in her own life.
“Self-destruction and toxic consumption and deliverance from pain is a lot easier to adhere to. Undeniably, for myself and those around me becoming present is the best decision I have ever made,” she wrote.
Cobain, now 25 years old, appears happy and healthy in her recent posts, and is celebrating her achievements with her boyfriend of just over a year, Matthew Cook. She was previously married to Isaiah Silva, whom she divorced in early 2016.
As she thrives in sobriety, it is clear that Cobain is creating her own legacy. Facing adversity in the wake of her father’s death and the addictions of her mother has led her to this point as a newly sober woman with the world at her feet.
I thought I would start this post by using a pure moment in Oahu amongst nature, with my love. This moment is a representation of who I am on February 13th, 2018. It feels significant here, now because it’s my 2nd sober birthday. It’s an interesting and kaleidoscopic decision to share my feelings about something so intimate in a public forum . The fact that I’m sober isn’t really public knowledge, decidedly and deliberately. But I think it’s more important to put aside my fear about being judged or misunderstood or typecast as one specific thing. I want to have the capacity to recognize & observe that my journey might be informative, even helpful to other people who are going through something similar or different. It is an everyday battle to be in attendance for all the painful, bazaar, uncomfortable, tragic, fucked up things that have ever happened or will ever happen. Self destruction and toxic consumption and deliverance from pain is a lot easier to adhere to. Undeniably, for myself and those around me becoming present is the best decision I have ever made. How we treat our bodies directly correlates to how we treat our souls. It’s all interconnected. It has to be. So I’m gonna take today to celebrate my vibrant health and the abundance of happiness, gratitude, awareness, compassion, empathy, strength, fear, loss, wisdom, peace and the myriad of other messy emotions I feel constantly. They inform who I am, what my intentions are, who i want to be and they force me to acknowledge my boundaries/limitations. I claim my mistakes as my own because I believe them to contribute to the dialogue of my higher education in life. I am constantly evolving. The moment I stop my evolution is the moment I disservice myself and ultimately those I love. As cheesy and cornball as it sounds life does get better, if you want it to. I’ll never claim I know something other people don’t. I only know what works for me and seeking to escape my life no longer works for me. Peace, love, empathy (I’m going to reclaim this phrase and define it as something that’s mine, filled with hope and goodness and health, because I want to ) Frances Bean Cobain
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